Client Case Study
From a Stressed Manager to a Balanced Leader
How Iulian shifted his behavior from paralyzing stress, indifference and stagnation to clarity, empathy and purposeful living
Iulian reached out to me after following my work on social media for a long time. And while he was determined to work with me and give coaching a try, he still had his reservations as to whether he could achieve change and improvement in the areas he needed it the most.
But because his desire and need for change was greater than his comfort of staying the same and having the same results, I decided to take him on as a client. I admired his honesty and readiness to make some serious changes in his life and career because even though he was an experienced professional in the finance field with a 15-year background he knew that to open up new opportunities for growth and progress, something needed to change.
And there we were digging deeper together session after session every week for approximately 18 months when Iulian concluded: “Tünde is one of the few people who managed to provide much more than I expected in our collaboration.”
Let me take you through how this happened. 😊
Even though Iulian was an experienced manager with a 15-year background in finance, he struggled in certain areas of his professional life. And even though things seemed fine from the outside, he couldn’t figure out the cause of his struggles and possible stagnation.
One of the greatest challenges he was facing were the need for clarity and having the courage to make hard decisions instead of postponing them and being in charge of his workload instead of the workload taking charge of him.
He also needed help understanding what was stopping him from taking action and making significant progress that would be aligned with his goals and values. He was noticing however the harmful effects of the high stress he was experiencing, continuous inner conflict and the negative reactions that would affect all areas of his life more or less.
We know all too well that the higher you go in your profession, the greater the challenges can become, and the lonelier it gets when it comes to your struggles and growth even though surrounded by people. Therefore asking for objective, professional support to ensure personal and professional growth and development is a sign of strength in a manager, not weakness. It’s a sign of awareness of what your present situation is truly like and how it could improve. It’s a sign of having a vision and goals you want to fulfill, instead of just putting on a mask of ‘everything is fine’ until you collapse and your business with you.
Ignorance is never bliss, not when it comes to your life, marriage, business and relationships. And Iulian wasn’t ignorant, which led him to ask for my coaching services and we’ve worked every week in session for 18 months. We addressed all areas of his life: business/career, relationships, financial areas, health and self-care and anything that could affect his development and progress.
We also worked on developing 15 emotional intelligence skills and competencies that would support Iulian in effective communication, relationship development, independence and self-confidence, decision-making and stress management. And we also worked on understanding and learning how to develop and use these competencies in the right combination, in the right contexts and the right amount.
As we dug deeper into the cause of Iulian’s struggles and challenges, and he became aware of the emotional implications and behavioral effects in his life and business, everything became clearer and made sense to him. As Iulian puts it: “I began to understand things at a new level and I gained such clarity that seemed unbelievable at first.”
And while it’s hard to believe such an achievement, unless you’ve experienced it yourself, it’s like you finally look in the mirror after many years and see things exactly as they are. You might like certain things about yourself and you might also realize what needs to be improved or completely changed.
And while it’s a much-needed and meaningful process, it is also something you can’t do on your own, because your blind spots will sabotage your clarity and objectivity. Therefore you need a safe environment and a trustworthy relationship based on confidentiality and psychological safety where you can be your true self to explore your inner self, improve, change and become your very best version. And the benefits of this were tremendous in Iulian’s life.
In our collaboration I worked with Iulian on 2 fronts: on one hand, we worked on the cause of the struggles, change, improvement, vision, and goals; on the other hand, we worked on developing the skills and competencies that would support the new change, improvement, progress, new opportunities, achievements and great results he wanted to achieve. Because it’s not enough to change the old habits, it’s important to develop new, good and healthy habits.
It’s important to note the fact that in order to achieve sustainable change and improvement, you also need specific skills and competencies that would serve as the right equipment in the right context. And having the right equipment for any type of situation you might be facing in your personal life or business, is like having a superpower. And the acquisition of such a ‘superpower’ or practical toolbox is the greatest result Iulian has achieved.
Now, Iulian makes better decisions without delaying any important decisions, his stress levels improved substantially, he understands what stopped him from taking consistent action and what goals he truly wants to achieve and he has a clearer direction and vision for the future.
He also communicates more effectively by expressing himself more congruently and is able to identify when his emotions get the best of him. And this has had a huge impact on all of his relationships, team and overall influence as a leader.
And while he was a great manager when he contacted me, now he is also a great leader. This is the result and effect of healthy, consistent and purposeful change and development that simultaneously includes deep redefinition and continuous building and upgrading of skills and competencies.
And this is why I love my job, I get to see such meaningful shifts and progress in people’s lives, which to me is the greatest achievement a person can witness.
Well done, Iulian! 🙌
Tünde is one of the few people who managed to provide much more than I expected in our collaboration. And her well-defined character, clearly set values and principles, her extraordinary respect and understanding for each person, all complemented by a warm personality is inspiring. The fact that I didn't feel judged for a second for what I say and do, was a new experience for me and it completely changed my perspective.
Tünde’s ability to ask the right questions as well as her active listening (that still amazes me) were enough for me to discover my values and passions. Also through her feedback things that seemed difficult to understand in my life, started to have such a clear logic. I can now say that by simply understanding how emotional intelligence helps the decision-making process has freed me from the enormous stress I had. It is also much easier for me to identify what I think and feel and I find it easier to communicate and to express myself effectively, something I was very deficient in.
What I got from Tünde was unconditional support and understanding. It is amazing to know that I can rely on her, that she is there and not only that, but that I have her support every time I need it. It makes me feel stronger and more confident. Also, the fact that I didn't feel judged for a second for what I say and do or for what I didn't do was a new experience for me and it completely changed my perspective.
In short, I can say that I am more myself now, and with Tünde I feel completely safe. I learned that when Tünde starts the process of helping you "dig deep", many things start happening in your life. Thank you Tünde for everything you have done and are doing for me. I feel that I have progressed and I am progressing enormously thanks to what we set in motion together.
Iulian Cosmin Mogoș
Manager/Leader, Financial Advisor
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Hi, my name is Tünde Macarie and I am the Founder of DigDeeper Leaders - Equipped for Impact serving as a Leadership & Emotional Intelligence Coach and Facilitator.
I am a huge believer that there’s no greater achievement in life than that of a wholesome human being who is well-equipped to BE and DO their very best and live a purposeful life, able to create a positive impact through excellence, wisdom, and compassion.
Combining my passion and curiosity for human behavior, transformational change, purposeful living and effective leadership, has led me to build my coaching business and help leaders, entrepreneurs, startup founders and their teams develop the EQ skills they need to be effective, perform well and successfully handle continuous change and challenges in business, society, relationships, and personal life.
My dream is to work with more and more influential entrepreneurs, leaders, teachers and politicians who dream big, have an insanely meaningful and purposeful vision and want to create a real, positive impact in their businesses, people and society.
I want to support such people to develop the necessary social skills and competencies to become truly effective leaders who can make a sustainable difference and live a meaningful legacy of excellence, innovation, high standards, wisdom and compassion.
So, through individual, personalized coaching sessions, I help and support leaders and entrepreneurs like yourself in identifying what areas in their lives and businesses need to be improved or transformed. I strategically help you develop the right social, communication, relational, decision-making and leadership skills that can support your SUCCESS and EXCELLENCE in business and become equipped for meaningful and lasting IMPACT.
By getting your life, relationships, and business in order!
We often tend to focus on what we know and neglect what we do not know or are not aware of. And this can make us overly confident in our beliefs and capacities as leaders and entrepreneurs. And so a lot of dysfunctionality and disorder gets overlooked and unaddressed, which can create a lot of unexpected damage both on a personal level and in business.
But by learning to become aware of what’s not working and why, and by addressing also uncomfortable and unexpected situations the right way and not postponing to make the hard decisions can have a huge impact on your business.
Not to mention that by bringing order and good functionality in your personal and business relationships and all areas of your life and by developing the skills and competencies that can support you in effective relationships, communication, and decision-making, you can better prepare for and possibly even prevent the damaging effects and painful consequences of unaddressed issues and postponed decisions.
Because first "The pursuit of excellence is gratifying and healthy." (Edwin Bliss)
And second, because I believe that without order, clarity and excellence in our lives, there’s mess, confusion and mediocrity.
And mess simply creates more mess and confusion. And when there’s a mess in our lives there’s also masked and normalized dysfunctionality. The problem is that, by only masking disorder and dysfunctionality instead of addressing it, any type of normalized dysfunctionality can lead to serious damage in our personal lives, relationships and business.
Lack of order is oftentimes closely tied to a lack of higher purpose and direction, normalized dysfunction, and no or very little influence and impact in business, relationships and society.
Whereas, on the flip side, order leads to clarity, direction, purpose and meaning, as well as strategic positioning and positive influence. And even legacy.
So, CONTACT ME to #DigDeeper⛏️ and create a true impact in your life and business through 1-to-1 personalized coaching in a professional, confidential and safe space!
Find out HOW you can bring order in all areas of your life and business, and develop social, relational, communication & decision-making skills and competencies that will revolutionize the way you live and lead.
So, feel free to reach out and ask questions about my work and my approach as I found that most of the time there’s a lot of misunderstanding about coaching. And by not being curious, you might miss out on an excellent and valuable possible collaboration. And I won’t be able to get to know a valuable person like you!
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Yours,
Tünde
